Sept. 7—Knife River
It was an inauspicious beginning. Mark and I were exhausted from a week of travel and then a weekend of preparation. The girls were tired of their own resources. On the way to the boat Cedar realized she’d left her water shoes at the party we’d just been to. Instead of thanking her for remembering before it was too late, I snapped at her. She snapped back. I pulled it together enough to apologize after shopping for carrots, potatoes, apples, plums, batteries, and film. We were on the boat by suppertime and left at 7:30 in a calm. I was reading their bedtime story to the girls in the v-berth when Mark pulled us away from the dock, and instantly I felt the chill breeze blow down. I looked at my shorts and tank top and thought, “It’s the end of summer for us!” (I was wrong.)
Once the girls were in bed Mark lay down in a sleepingbag and I donned fleece and windbreaker to stand the first watch. The motor was running and there was only the gentlest rocking. Any rocking at all made me nervous because we were in for a long night if it got bouncy, having had no time to acquire sea legs yet. But the NE wind never got more than about 5 knots. I managed to stay up until 9:30 which felt like about midnight. Then I lay down with the timer beside my ear, waking me every 15 minutes to check the horizon. It was cool and clammy. At 1:30 Mark took over. I slept fitfully, or rather I dreamed, as I always do on passage, vivid dreams of AMICUS careening down main streets, up waterfalls, through rapids, along highways—never on big water.
Sept. 8—Grand Marais, MN
At dawn I woke with my usual early-morning low thoughts. I lie there half-asleep and slightly woozy, worrying that the girls will awake just one step away from throwing up, me unable to do anything pro-active to avoid it. I hadn’t planned any passage breakfast, the galley was still an unorganized pile of food…wasn’t the wind picking up? As usual, Mark had both optimism and action on his side, plus he was fully awake. He made granola, put up a sail, and acted confident while I bestirred myself, nibbled almonds until I could lift my head and open my eyes. I got up and stuck my head out—always an upper. The girls slept in and woke extremely cheerful to be On Our Way. They were not the least bit seasick. By 10:00 am we were in Grand Marais, slipping into the harbor just in time to miss the real NE wind that was starting to blow.
We weren’t well slept, but we were rested, which was enough. Our friend Greg waved and boomed out a greeting from the dock. We docked right next to a much larger schooner built with the same design as Amicus¸ part of the North House Folk School. Greg made our stay there comfortable and that night he and his wife Jeanne and 3-yr-old Olya came for dinner, bringing their garden veggies. So far we are not suffering from Vegetable Deprivation.
We also officially started homeschooling. Knock on wood—so far Cedar loves it. She works diligently on her letters, her form drawings, her recorder. She scoffs at the notion that her knitting and sewing projects are “work.” Both girls are developing a trip log book which so far includes a map and our route, weather charts for each day, flora and fauna. Cedar was so cheerful about this that she announced “By the end of the trip I want to be reading picture books.” Then she sat down and read the first page of her first reader. She is to have specialized time with dad—navigation, cleating, steering, boat parts, etc. We are on the lookout for opportunities for her to do older, independent stuff, which is a direct antidote to the incessant, “I hate Lammie I’m so ANNOYED at Lammie I HATE having a little sister…” She loves dinghying by herself, pushing off, special chores. Lamar seems to get that this is something Cedar must do on her own and it is not helpful for Lamar to emulate everything.
Sept. 9—Suzi Islands, MN
More light winds, if any wind. We motored to the Suzi islands. For some reason there were swells coming from both NE and SE which made for a very rolly ride. The girls had a blast, with both parents’ attention once again. I read half of Pippi Longstocking for the 20th time or so, and Cedar and Mark had a “Connect 4” tournament. We looked backwards through binoculars and giggled at our expressions. Somehow the syrup spilt in one of the lockers. I cleaned it up until I got woozy, then Mark took over. Lamar and I spent the last hour dozing on the cabintop, unable to rouse ourselves. It was warm and hazy and cloudy and humid.
Once at our lovely, lonely anchorage, we all took our first dip. The water must be 60 degrees which for us was downright warm. Then for an hour before dinner I cooked, Mark worked in the cockpit, Cedar in the v-berth and Lamar in the cockpit did projects, and we were all quiet except some random commentary. All together, all individually engaged. Bliss! Such times were unheard of in the early days. All those baby years really were worth it!
I’m going to try to record what we eat, partly because everyone always asks, and partly because I always forget and can’t think what to eat next time we climb aboard.
Breakfast: oatmeal
Lunch: tuna sandwiches or burritos
Supper: lentil/potato hash with fried egg and veggies
Sept. 10—Suzi Islands to Tee Harbor, Ontario
Another day of motoring brought us across the border into the Thunder Bay area. This time, thank goodness, the seas were glassy. We sailed with a puff of breeze behind us for about an hour. Cedar did her letters, read a little, practiced recorder, and began her math. Lamar learned to write her name with Daddy. Mark sprained his ankle on the cabintop, but other than a few grunts of pain could not even be bothered to pause in putting up a sail. He did put his foot in a bucket of cold water afterwards and accept Arnica.
In the afternoon, things got a bit slow. The girls decided to switch sides in the v-berth, which I thought was a bad idea, but moving all their stuff around did entertain them for hours. They were walking the fine line between “self-entertainment” and “self-destruction”; every half hour Lamar would emerge, crying, with Cedar hollering outrage or forced, condescending patience from behind the green curtain that is their “door.” One way another, via threats, coercion, or false reassurance, Lamar would be coaxed back behind the green curtain despite all our kindly advice. Fortunately, unbeknownst to them, the curtain is transparent.
We arrived in Tee Harbor, nestled under the 1000-ft. Sleeping Giant that dramatically marks the entrance to Thunder Bay. The scenery was dulled by the thick haze. We rowed ashore. It was hot. Cedar was rowing. I was impatient. “You need a dip, mommy,” she commented, and I shut up. We swam until our heads were clear again.
Mark and I have started to talk about what route we should take on this trip. We are wary of setting a goal and then forgetting the journey. We have ideas about hitting the remote islands in the NE corner of the lake, but we also love this part of the lake with its endless islands and cliffs. We are resolved to take this at the pace we want to, and then see what the date is when we pop out on the other end. This hot hazy weather sure makes it feel like we have months before the snow flies.
Breakfast: granola (K: greens and rice)
Lunch: cheese-beans and chips
Supper: sloppy joes (mostly leftover hash) and cole slaw.
Sept. 11—Tee Harbor
The conditions were blissful all around today, a fact which was unfortunately missed by Cedar who was inexplicably quarrelsome, pessimistic, and defiant. We moved forward with our day unbothered, and eventually her outlook improved. It was sunny and warm, at least 70 degrees. We announced a new “chore” routine whereby each girl does one chore daily after breakfast. This elicited a storm of protest that culminated in a mutual chant, “If you wanted us to take care of the boat, you never should have bought it in the first place!” Cedar actually had to take a break in the dinghy, she was so steamed up. It was 30 minutes of struggle for a 3 minute chore, 2 minutes of which was done happily, even eagerly. Lamar hung up some laundry and Cedar wiped some condensation along the hull.
Then, on to the big event of the day, a hike up the Sleeping Giant. Though we framed it as a given, both Mark and I were doubtful that we could actually make it to the top. We’d never come close before, and it was 3 miles and 800 feet up. Cedar still had the energy to protest the entire way up, but neither girl stopped, and we actually made it up there! The view was fabulous and even Cedar was mollified, though she loudly proclaimed that she’d prefer taking an elevator. The only downer was that I got some poison ivy on my legs. The hike back down was pleasant, unmarred by the howlings from behind. The last ½ mile we played the story game (each person telling the story in succession) which we managed to keep together despite a disconnected theme. With mom and dad, the storyline kept taking the characters on adventures, into canoes, up waterfalls. The girls brought it around to potty talk, which had them giggling hysterically. When that failed, the characters inevitably gravitated towards a generous and magic lion (Lamar) or some form of electronics (Cedar). She doesn’t even know what electronics are but she knows they can enter at any time! Thanks to Mark’s manipulation, Lamar got to wrap it all up at the end.
Then, back to the boat—no beach swimming today; we had a special agenda. We wanted to jump off the bowsprit. In the end, the girls settled for leaping from the side of the boat. We swam so long and joyfully that Mark, as usual, thought the water couldn’t be THAT bad. So he dove in and sprang out immediately, spluttering How could we swim in such ice? The girls did another dip just before bed; they love to go straight from the water into their cozy covers. As usual, by 8:30 Mark and I were ready for bed too. We have been sleeping a LOT and without the computer, evenings wind down quickly.
Food—no leftovers anymore! I’m getting worried. Every night I set a pot of beans on the stove to soak, and usually a pot of rice as well. Beans and rice are our safety net, our snacks, our backup meal. But so hungry—already?
Breakfast: egg and fried bread
Lunch: burritos, fruit, gorp
Supper: ham and tumeric potatoes, carrot salad
Sept. 12—Tee Harbor to Otter Cove
With all this hot hazy calm weather, we suddenly decided to take a look at Nipigon. Maybe this would be the year to take on the Nipigon Straits which are shallow and can be “treacherous” according to the guidebook. The town of Nipigon, located 6 miles up the Nipigon river at the very northernmost point of the Lake, was farther north than we’d ever traveled by water. We decided to push all the way to Otter Cove, 35 miles up the shoreline.
Anticipating chores continues to be a loud and ugly process, while actually doing chores is fun. Lamar is usually sad to see her chores end. She spends most of her days in dresses and prairie “skirts” wrapped around her waist that swirl out properly when she bustles about. Halfway through scrubbing the cockpit Cedar unabashedly commented, “Chores are SO much fun!” I sighed, having long ago given up the Lecture in Logic. I know that the next day, the protest will start all over again. Maybe it’s a necessary ritual involved in being a kid.
After her regular lunch Cedar decided to make a second lunch her own way. She consented to let me watch and caution from the hatch steps. She grated carrot, sauted it with rice, nuts, raisins, and carefully spooned it into her bowl. She cleaned up the galley and ate on the cabintop. She pronounced it fabulous. We all took bites and agreed. She decided to become her own cook. I hedged on that one.
Cedar also taught Lamar to finger-knit. All it took was 30 seconds of focus for Lamar. They sat on the cabintop, knitted together, cuddled their dollies, and chatted non-stop for much of the afternoon. Lamar has been dying to actually learn a craft and soon had plans to make all of the decorations for daddy’s birthday. Cedar had a crafty day too. First she hid herself in the v-berth and made Lamar a birthday present: a tiny doll’s purse, filled with doll’s cell phone, credit card, library card…then she started knitting and couldn’t stop until she had made a recorder case. She finished up the handle just as we were coming in.
However all that positive energy was bound to rebound, and rebound it did. On the dinghy ride to a nearby waterfall she got all geared up for a good protest. Mark cut it short by taking her back to the boat so Lamar and I could enjoy the waterfall in peace. And we did—it was really something. Way out in the middle of nowhere, the size of Gooseberry Falls. After we returned, Cedar and Mark went out in the dinghy fishing. It was picture-perfect—until supper when mom’s inedible cooking was offered once again. But then we recovered for an evening dip in the warm, murky water. Swimming is a great way to get ourselves going in a good way again.
Despite these difficulties with Cedar, it’s easy to see that the girls are thriving. Slowly things like bellbottoms and nailpolish are receding; what we are doing is starting to matter more than what we are wearing. The girls are the dream homeschoolers—they make up songs that count in different languages; they perform instant comedies, they “read” to each other and their dolls by the hour. Our family rhythm is influenced by so few factors: weather, individual moods, travel plans—rather than being swamped by outside influences. It’s easy to imagine why the kids like it so much.
Breakfast: oats
Lunch: grilled cheese, or burrito, or beans and rice
Supper: one pot veggie, buckwheat, ham, rice, quick yogurt custard dessert
Sept. 13: Otter Cove to Moss Island
I swam to shore and back before breakfast. Sunday worship was all about Native plant tales and appreciation of the plants around us. We have started memorizing as much flora as we can. I was sure we’d see a moose or otter in there, but only bald eagles. Mark caught a fish within minutes—a small northern—but decided to throw it back. Now we can’t believe he did that as no one has been able to catch a fish since.
We returned to the waterfall and Cedar was just getting going when Mark cut her short again, telling her that if she fussed she was done with desserts for a week. She was silent and sniffing for about two minutes and then allowed as how she might make wraps with cranberry sauce and large leaf aster leaves, which Mark said were edible. Dutifully we picked cranberries and asters and when we got back she really did make wraps.
In the afternoon we sailed to Moss Island in a gentle SW wind. Unfortunately there was a swell out there and we were all woozy. “These treacherous waves,” Cedar grumbled while Lamar just wanted to lie with her head in my lap. Mark was tense because we’d gotten complacent; we were pulling our dinghy instead of stowing it on the cabintop—something he normally NEVER does but the trip was so short and there didn’t seem to be any wind…when some waves started sloshing around in the cockpit Cedar got helpful and set things to rights down in the cabin. How miraculous to have a daughter old enough to manage! Soon, we were back in a protected channel between islands. Moss Island was at the beginning of the Nipigon strait where we wanted to be poised for a trip up to Nipigon. It was also gorgeous anchorage, with relatively warm water. After dinner we all took another swim. The girls even jumped off the bowsprit. I went out in the dinghy after dark and marveled at the access we have to these truly wild places. We are really out there.
Sept. 14: Moss Island to CPR
In the morning, the gentle winds and calms looked like they were ending a day early. Our planned trip up to Nipigon wasn’t going to happen, at least not right away, and we had to get out of our anchorage which was open to N winds. Disappointed, we headed straight east. Out of nowhere the wind piped up to 15 knots and we suddenly had to hop to and pay attention as we went through a bunch of shoals, heading for the famed CPR slip—a cove with a strong but vague history of the Canadian Pacific Railway. It was HOT—even in a tank top. Luckily the girls were again preoccupied; they had two weddings, each getting to be a bride. By mid-afternoon we were at CPR. The protection comes from a little peninsula that appears to be made of gravel. Inside were docks, cabins, trails, the whole set-up. Obviously some families had put in a lot of work. Mark and I weren’t wild about staying at a dock, but the girls discovered raspberries everywhere and more important, a water pump that really worked. They disappeared for the rest of the afternoon, leaving us actually bored without them. They had their prairie skirts, two buckets, and they were doing chores. They pumped out water, fed the chickens and horses, picked berries, and did what? I have no idea but it lasted all afternoon and most of the next morning. The only thing they would break for was to take off all their clothes, put on their lifejackets, count to three, and jump off the dock over and over again.
Meanwhile, Mark and I were struggling with our direction again. What is it about destinations and goals anyhow? How to get excited about a goal, and work towards it, but then remain ready to let it go if it’s not going to happen? Seems impossible to me. So we were feeling let down. Then an older couple showed up who help manage CPR. They were from Nipigon and told us all about the Paddle to the Sea playground there. They also assured us that the Blind Channel (cutting off 15 miles) was very manageable and that locals had put in buoys in the shoals. They also told us that the marina was closed so we’d stay at the dock for free! They clearly wanted to sell their town, and it worked. We started to plan how to go up there again.
If there was one quality that makes for a happy sailor, I’d say it’s “Never look back.” The amount of energy I waste being disappointed, wistful, wondering if the right decision was made, re-checking the forecast to see how we played the odds…all while a perfectly enjoyable day is going on in the meantime. If we hadn’t been sidetracked to CPR, we wouldn’t have known all we knew about getting to Nipigon, or felt like it was so manageable after all.
Supper: mac and cheese, cabbage and carrots, 3-berry cornbread
Sept. 15 CPR
Again Cedar made her own breakfast, and declared her own scrambled eggs delectable. Lamar wavers between loyalty to Cedar and fear of what kind of meal she might be committing to. The energy for cleaning up the galley is already falling.
NE winds made the choice to stay easy. The girls had all the prairie chore time they wanted and even seemed a little more capable of boat chores. Cedar commented,” I’m learning to think of chores in a different way!” Let’s hope so. Sometimes she is hard to keep up with. Are we being firm and consistent? Or are we trying to keep up with her enthusiasm? Her energy for homeschooling fell off the map; she spent the short time we requested losing crayons through the dock boards so she’d have to go diving to get them. Mark confounded these efforts by adeptly leaning out and retrieving all items. Soon we gave up the ghost and went back to prairie chores, fishing, and swimming. I cannot believe we are getting in so much swimming. Who says Lake Superior is too cold to swim?
We hiked up to a lookout point a couple of miles away—another climb, another beautiful view. We had discovered the trick to stop the whining: every day without whining each girl earns .25 towards a trip to Savers (thrift store with great kids clothes) after our return. If you knew how much they care about clothing you would know how powerful this would be! It has worked like a charm—Cedar has decided she’s going to be “perfect” and will hopefully have over $7 by the end of the trip. If it works it will be the best $15 we ever spend. The hike was really fun; both girls are turning into great hikers, despite themselves. When we returned Cedar set to work making cranberry tarts. Start to finish, and they were pretty good! After dinner we cuddled on the gravel beach and read Paddle to the Sea in preparation for our trip to Nipigon. We felt the first chill we’d felt for days, enough to put a damper on the mosquitos. Then in the night it got cloudy and humid again. Neither Mark or I slept much, keyed up as we were to head out at the crack of dawn the next day.
Supper: (B and L are always the same) fish cakes, oat cakes, rice, beets. Tarts.
Sept. 16—CPR to Nipigon, ON
Should we try the Blind Channel or not? Without it, our trip to Nipigon would be a lot longer and we might be fighting for daylight. Our experience on the reef in the Moffat Straits just a few miles away (4 years ago) have left an indelible mark. We determined that we need not shy away from every reef in this part of the lake; we just need to use good sense and tread carefully and not be too rigid to turn back. At least, that’s what we decided right before going to bed. Then we lost a bunch of sleep worrying about it . We woke at 6:30 and headed out at 6:45. It was cloudy so we would not have good visibility in the water, but the wind was pretty light. Sometimes you just gotta get out there. Anything was better than worrying about it.
We got through the shoals around Agate Island just fine, mostly due to having memorized them by their colors from the high view the day before. Rounding St. Ignace Island with a SE swell coming from the Keewenaw woke up the girls in a hurry! I was anxious that I’d hear wretching, but every time Mark went below he reported giggles. Thankfully it didn’t last too long and soon we were heading for the Blind Channel. We had been assured that it was well marked, and to our relief it really was. We crept through at about 7-8 feet and thanked whatever locals really did a good job making it clear how to get through there. By 8:30 in the morning we were on our way north to Nipigon and I was downstairs cooking a big breakfast. The winds were light so we motorsailed the whole way. By 11:00 we were entering the Nipigon river. We put-putted by pictographs, passed two bald eagles fishing from a submerged log, crossed the 49th parallel, and generally had a peak experience coming into the town of Nipigon, 6 miles up the river. The northernmost port of the Great Lakes! And by the end of the day we had a certificate to prove it, made to order by the mayor of Nipigon who had watched us come in on webcam (whatever that is) and who promptly showed up on the dock to welcome us.
The first thing we did (other than make arrangements for diesel and propane) was to play in the brand-new, as-yet-unfinished Paddle to the Sea playground series that boasts 12 different sites around the town—including maps and explanations at each site for which part of the journey it represents! Paddle to the Sea is Nipigon’s claim to fame, of course. The day turned sunny and crisp (leaves are still green up here!) so we ate a leisurely lunch, plutzed around and in the late afternoon walked partway to Red Rock on a lovely trail that runs along the shoreline. We picked more plants for the girls’ trip logs (Mark turns out to be a plethora of information, as usual—did you know that you can make pancake batter out of cattails?) saw a massive dead salmon, a dead mole and shrew, a live muskrat, pheasant…no bear on the trail, though we were cautioned to look out. The berries have been so late this year that the bears are encroaching. We also got a few black fly bites. So far the Savers Plan is working great—the girls managed to get through the tortuous time between hearing about the hike and actually being on it—and even consented to take off their prairie skirts and don shoes and pants.
So far the people have been extremely friendly. Mark got diesel and propane. The marina is closed and therefore free. One old-timer who drove Mark up into town had a fishing boat that he would take out Nov. 1 and return just before Christmas, loaded to the gils with herring. I shivered just thinking about the November gales, the coating of ice that surely covers everything…No one knows the lake like the fisherman.
At lunch today Cedar and Lamar ate on-the-edge black beans without comment. For supper they argued about what shape of noodle they would eat. Go figure.
Sept. 17—Nipigon, ON and LAMAR’S BIRTHDAY
I was exhausted before the day began. Birthdays are too much for me. Cedar was all set to stay up late and decorate the cabin with us the night before, but then she fell asleep. I made cinnamon rolls (first request). We sang to Lamar as she and Cedar emerged from the v-berth and a very sweet little girl came beaming out and exclaiming about the lovely balloons. She opened her biggest present right before breakfast—a whole bin of American doll clothes, hand-made by her dear Grandma Gordon. She kind of knew it was coming, and so did Cedar, but this gift really is quite something—a tradition for all Gordon granddaughters. Cedar handled it well until she began to suspect that Lamar might have gotten more outfits than she did on her 5th birthday…and thence began the saga of the day. Cedar TRIED to manage when Lamar received all kinds of presents, but she just isn’t used to being deprived! And Lamar isn’t used to it either—by the end of the morning she had lent Cedar several of her new outfits and written her a love letter and assigned her the babysitter of her new doll carrier. What do parents do when both children assume that one child is the most deserving??? Even so, Cedar wept off and on all day.
After breakfast we attempted normalcy but school just wasn’t happening. We got word that the local museum was open and so we spent the morning there. The staff there had lots of bear stories to tell and by the time we left the girls were afraid to sit alone in the cockpit. “She doesn’t even go out on her yard anymore except to mow the lawn!” Apparently bears are overpopulated right now and losing their fear of humans.
At lunch we had ham sandwiches (Mark took a quick trip to the store—birthdays are all about food in this family) and then cake and presents. Cedar ended up wailing in the v-berth but Lamar managed unperturbed and we continued on with the afternoon. By evening, things were mostly back to normal. Pizza was the final request.
What is it like to be a 5-year-old Lamar? She is giggly and dancy, even a trip to the biffi turns into a performance as she flutters along the dock, singing passionately whatever words come to mind (usually a mixture of nautical lore, Little House story, and last nights dinner), and gesturing like a true stage performer. When she gets lost in a performance even Cedar knows better than to disturb her with the “real world.”
Lamar is also extremely particular. Last night just as she should have been falling asleep I heard a commotion in the v-berth. She was upset with daddy because he was not setting up her dollies properly for the night. She got the headlamp out and dictated his every move until the dolly blanket was folded just so, the dollies placed just so on top, and the whole thing propped at the right angle to herself. Only then did she grant him a “hmpf” and lie back down.
She is (I think) extremely good with words. One of our favorite games is making up puns. “What’s a bun that has nothing to do with hair?” The first few times we looked at her suspiciously—did she really come up with that? We don’t doubt her anymore but are motivated to outdo one another. At the same time, she still can’t (or hasn’t bothered to) say “v” or “l” properly, which can make the pun game confusing.
She has a few obsessions that are new to us: she loves potty humor, and she loves guns. We are not sure what to make of this but so far have just ridden it. She is a girl of extremes. Her artwork is either the joy of her life—hung delicately in the place of honor--or the bane of her existence, to be thrown in the garbage while she wails on the settee. There isn’t much in between. If Cedar asks to borrow a skirt, Lamar may reply in a most grown-up, generous voice, “Sure—that would work just fine.” Or she may stomp over to Cedar and clock her in the back without explanation. Or she may let out a piercing noise of some sort, undecipherable to all but extremely satisfactory for her. You never know, one moment to the next, what you are going to get. Yet I can see what she derives from this edgy game—without it, will she ever get noticed or appreciated? In the end, she is predictably good for a cuddle, a giggle, a song, or a dance. Ah, Lammie, how much we love her!
We may leave Nipigon tomorrow, so I’m trying to get this blog out before we go. We are headed east and south and may not be in internet range again for weeks, so don’t worry about us if you don’t hear for awhile.